Cool sunglasses help to hide this Seasons Tears

Hello Ladies!!

Let’s start today with Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it”.

So, What Happens when you’ve done this, and your children grow up and your training ceases? It feels like this all happens overnight, doesn’t it?  It feels like one day you have laid your babies down for a nap and the next day they are taller than you, staying up later than you, (You’re the one who needs the naps now!!)   and you’re watching them drive out of the driveway. Midlife is hard ladies; it’s hard finding ourselves once our lives don’t revolve around training our children.

There is so much changing at this time in our lives. Let’s make it normal to talk about it! I think we all carry shame in our emotions and feelings during midlife. If I’m being honest EVERYTHING is changing, you look in the mirror at a woman you hardly recognize, between the new lines and gray hair, to the time spent losing yourself caring for everyone else’s needs, you hardly recognize the eyes staring back at you. I remember thinking I had forever before I was in this stage of life. Your relationships all change, your marriage may look different, your kids grow up and stop needing you as much, your parents age, pass away, and need you more. Friendships may change, some weather the storm, and some don’t. So many times, I have just wished I could slam on the brakes of life and scream OK enough changes! I have just needed things, something, anything to stay the same. Reminds me of the Fleetwood Mac Song, “Landslide”. Brings me to tears every time I hear it!  “Can I handle the seasons of my life? Well, I’ve been afraid of changing, because I’ve built my life around you, but time makes you bolder, even children get older, and I’m getting older too”. 

Ladies, this season in life is hard, I won’t even pretend it isn’t. I have felt it full force. I can’t sit here and promise any of you that it won’t hurt so badly you think you can’t make it another day. There will be days when you just are not sure you can deal with one more emotion.  What I can promise you is this, JESUS NEVER CHANGES! You can find yourself again through him! He had plans for you life! Jesus is my thing I cling to, my stability in an unstable world. Hebrews 13:8 says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, and today, and FOREVER”.  He will hold you up in this season, he will renew your mind and he will help you find your new purpose! Lean on him when you don’t have enough strength to hold yourself.

I just wanted to share this little secret with you all today! Ladies when life buckles you at the knees and the brakes of life just don’t work, remember Jesus is and ALWAYS will be with you and is never changing! Hallelujah for that! What a relief!

Love your sister in Christ,

Becky

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